#Iwant #LifeLesson

So I was standing on the beach this morning, when I had this big “Moment”. A real “connect-with-the-universe” moment…

The water is pushing towards High tide, and I was standing by the start of the water…Okay, about 5m away…the water looked cold…LOL. I was having my “zoning” time and then It happened. That “Moment”…and there was an extra big wave breaking at the back and I saw that water coming! I decided to test the “Moment” Off course, its my nature, and I stood still. Just say to the Universe That I would like to test the waters but I don’t want to get totally wet. So I stood still. And the wave is coming! And I’m standing still! And suddenly, within mile-seconds, that wave died down in such a way that it just flowed the last few inches up to half of my left foot was covered with water. Just enough to feel the temperature of the water. You know, like when you just put your toes in the pool to test the water…like that.

I smiled when this happened. I could see the universe giving me a big grin within the waves. I was exited to see what the lesson was going to be this time, so again I stood still. Watching the waves. All of them was a lot smaller than the one that I saw just moments ago. One specific one caught my eye, and I was watching it. About half the size of the first one, but the water was still coming on! So It pushed up towards me….covered me up to my knees with water. And I was wet! “Very funny” was the first words that came out my mouth. I could hear the universe say these words through the noise of the waves…”I gave you your desire, when you stood still the first time. I did not go against it, even if it meant I had to calm down a wave. But the second time I wanted to stretch the wave a bit, because that was MY desire. You got yours. What about Me?

I don’t have words to answer on this one….up to where I was writing this post at this specific point, I have not yet figured out what to name this post…

Then it hit me. #Iwant! I mean, isn’t that what the waves was about? I wanted to get my desires, probably like most of the times, and yet again I got it. But this time it came with a #LifeLesson.

There comes a time in your life, when you just have to give someone else a chance. But most of all, sometimes we have to give the universe change to do what He does best. And just stand back before we get wet!

“The universe doesn’t give you what you ask for with your thoughts; It gives you what you demand with your actions.” ~ Dr Steve Maraboli

#Iwant #LifeLesson #roadofsteel #figuringItoutAsIgoAlong

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Suddenly my so-called Life was over…

It was one of the warmest days yet this year so far. I was sitting in a meeting, wrapping up what was suppose to be my “deal-breaker”, turning everything in my life around. I felt my phone vibrate in my pocket…I looked at the screen quickly. It was my wife. She never phones me, unless it is really urgent. Everyone that knows me, knows that I don’t easily answer a phone in a meeting, unless its my wife. Then I answer!

“Hi Babes” I answered. “whats up?”. I could hear her cry on the other side! I really don’t like it when my wife cries. It breaks my spirit and my whole being in two parts. “you need to get hear now!”, she cried. “but I need you to NOT get aggressive when you get hear. But hurry!”…

Her words silenced the world around me. I walked out the meeting without saying much. Only a “sorry, I need to leave immediately”.

What the hell was going on? My heart was pounding in my throat. It felt like it was about to explode in my head! I was about 15min drive from home, which felt like 5 minutes…under water…! Deep dark Water! I had no words when I arrived. I had no energy in my body to do anything! It was gone! All gone! We had nothing left and nowhere to go…

It is today exactly 60 days after the incident, we have survived what was one of our biggest set backs as a family, ever! We lost everything we owned that day! But, yet it feels like we were saved, more than we were punished. I know it doesn’t make sense, but in my heart it does. That’s probably all that makes sense…

Through it all, I have learned a great deal about myself, my kids, and my darling wife. I have learned that it doesn’t matter what the deal is, when there is love in a family, you can overcome anything. I do how-ever NOT say that it is easy. NO SIR! It is Hard. Believe me. But everything has brought us closer to each other….Or has it really?

Suddenly I am not sure about anything anymore. I feel empty, heartbroken, angry… My biggest question was:” Why us God?” “why did You have to put this massive mountain in my road? How am I suppose to get over this one? I don’t even know where to go from here. My wife is in shock, the kids literally lost everything they know their entire life, in one day! 24 Hours! Gone! POOF!!

In the last 60 days, I have learned to listen to the universe with a different ear…A different frequency. You need to really tune into a very High frequency to hear the universe speak. And believe you me, HE does speak to you. But most of the times we can not hear Him. Only because our lives are too full. Too full of nothingness. Stuff that doesn’t make sense to keep around in your life. Stuff that keeps you from reaching your full potential. Your Purpose.. Your destiny.

The universe doesn’t use words of wisdom to encourage us…or even to comfort us. It uses LOVE, PATIENTS AND A HARD LOOK INTO YOUR SOUL…

“There is a voice, that does not use words. Listen.” ~ Rumi

 

#StickItOut ~ Branch

So today is 6 March 2018. I have finally managed to stick to my New Year’s resolutions….of quite smoking. Yes, today is my third day without a ciggy! Congratulations to me! Hahaha. The smokers out there would understand what I’m talking about when I say it is tuff! It’s hard! But yet also do-able.

In the perfect world, I think we would just easily say “no thanks” for the first cigarette, but yeah, we don’t live in a perfect world do we? We all have noticed by now that life is a bitch and will stab you in any way possible. Well, a cigarette helped me cope with that thought. That was my escape from killing the world…Now it is also gone….Now I have no choice but to face the world head on. But its fine, I know I can do it! Why? Because I am not the same person I was 3 days ago…3 years ago….3 minutes ago…

I am fighting a gruesome fight inside of me…I am NOT a quitter, Never was…never will be! That’s probably the fact that makes it the more difficult to leave the smoking. So, I decided to change my mindset around it. I am not Quitting, I am merely “dis-positioning myself from my packet of cigarettes” forever.

Now, that, my dear friends….is what I call “mind-over-matter-control”

I have come to realize a few things about myself the last few months:

1. I often venture outside all to find the answer, only to come back and see that it has been in front of me the entire time.

2. I don’t blame myself anymore for NOT seeing the answers in front om me. I wasn’t ready at that time to see the answers.

3. My journey has changed me.

4. I must venture

I will keep you updated on my journey regarding the smoking thing.

All I have to say at this point, DON’T GIVE UP! #StickItOut

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“No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man” ~ Heraclitus

#StickItOut #lifelesson #roadofsteel #figuringItoutAsIgoAlong

#New #lifelesson

If we take the time to look inside our own heads, what would we see? The map of the future? The manual of life? Or just a record that is stuck on repeat?? I don’t know about you guys, but personally I think the latter will be seen by me most times. Its easy to get stuck in repeat….We get up in the morning, we go on with our daily stuff. Get home, eat, sleep and repeat…

And there is the first problem…We tend to have the same thoughts everyday, which means we do the same stuff everyday. Which means again that we get stuck on the same tune…like a broken record. Things remain unchanged in our lives, and yet we ask ourselves the same question…Why? Why me Lord? Why do the cool stuff never happen to me? I can literally hear HIM answer back…Because you are a donkey! Do the same stuff everyday, and yet you still expect different results….Isn’t that the definition of insanity?

A new you requires a #New input into your life. a #New language that you need to speak. And I don’t mean go out and learn how to speak an African Language or something, although it won’t hurt if you are planning a trip into Africa, as things can get pretty rough this side of the world if you don’t understand anybody.

Always nice to be prepared…

What it boils down to, is that if you really want to change and become a better you, you need to:

Get #New input into you life

Work on #New thoughts

Do #New, in all aspects of your life…. (just don’t go divorce your partner and say I said so….lol)

The one that tells you its easy, is bullshitting you. Or trying to sell you something. Its not easy! Its hard! Its a lot of constant work on yourself and the way you do things…

Best of luck! If you manage to get things going in a different direction in your life, don’t be shy to let me know. Always nice to hear any success stories.

“If things don’t change, they stay the same…” ~ Me

#New #roadofsteel #figuringItoutAsIgoAlong

Messy #Messy #lifelesson

If you want to see #Messy, you had to see my school days. Man, was that fun! Never could understand what everyone was bitching about? I mean, it only started at 9:00 and ended anything from 9:48 to 10:20. Depending on the weather of course. On warm days it was earlier…(We stayed close to the River and Fishing was off course one of our subjects…If you catch my drift)…so yeah, school wasn’t that bad…I remember this one incident at school though, where I was called out by my register teacher. Now that was my matrix year, or as its called these days, Grade 12, and during the December holidays at the end of Grade 11, the school got this bright idea to knock a few classroom walls out, so that we had a few “double” classrooms. These were used for your “register” classes as well as 2 of our language classes. (Register classes were when everyone in that grade gets together in one classroom. We were about 73 pupils in the same grade that year)

Okay, so back to the story at hand…Me and this teacher picked up a massive tiff the one day. But I mean she was going all out on me for something that I didn’t even do…(The dog pissed on my book, but I couldn’t tell her that, she wouldn’t believe me. So I lied, told her I didn’t do it…lol) And then she chases me out of class, tuning me to go to the principle’s office…I mean what ever?! Never went to the office, went home. It was just another 09:48 morning. I was a real dick when I was in school. Hardcore metal-head, with no respect for others.

I clearly remember the last words that uttered my mouth that day, just before I walked out the door,..”You are a Bitch! I hope you die!”

That was my last word that I said to her that day…and for ever. She died in a #Messy car crash just after 16:00 that afternoon. Leaving behind a husband and two beautiful babies.

It was only years later that it really started to effect me. As I got older I started to really understand the meaning of life. Don’t mess around with peoples lives, or even your own.

Try not to be an asshole. Sometimes its difficult, I know. But trust me if I tell you…it will come back to bite you in the arse. That I can pretty much promise you! Be kind to each other, you never know when it is the last time you talk to that person…

Love one another…

“I guess I managed to write something about #Messy after all…” ~ Me

#Messy #lifelesson #roadofsteel #figuringItoutAsIgoAlong

#Approval #lifelesson

Recent encounters have lead me to realise that sometimes we loose track of a few things. Important things. And we get side-tracked by things that are actually holding us back on our journey… A good example of such destraction is #Approval. I know, doesn’t make sense…But hear me out for a minute…This is not about the toxicity of seeking approval, but more about why we are seeking approval, or rather from whom? Could it be a lack of support while we were growing up? Or do we just want to be seen? Be THE MAN?

I don’t have the answers for some of the stuff that gonna pop up while you dig away into your inner being. I think that is for each of us to figure out by ourselves. But I do know that sometimes some of the stuff that pops out, makes it suprisingly rewarding. Be true to yourself, find that ROOT….And you will never look back…

“Seeking validation will keep you trapped. You don’t need anyone or anything to approve of your worth. When you understand this, you’ll be free.” ~ (Anonymous)

#Approval #lifelesson #roadofsteel #figuringItoutAsIgoAlong

#lifesAbitch #lifelesson

Life is a bitch! It’s hard and full of all kinds of stresses. If you are not carefull, life will break you in pieces…But don’t be discouraged. Here is a few pointers a have picked up along my journey the last few months on how to survive and thrive.

Firstly, you need to learn how to absorb the stresses, stay composed and react in a calculated matter. Huh?? Okay, so here’s the thing. To be able to learn how to cope with the stresses of life, you first need to learn how “not to cope with stress”. In other words learn how to destress.

Almost like a sponge. A full sponge cannot absorb any more water. But an empty sponge can! You need to get the access water out your system. The stuff that fills you up with worries.

Look for moments where you can destress. Relax and get your head clean. Schedule time away from responsibilities, tech and stress. This needs to be done on a regular basis. Can’t empty the sponge only once a week. You will miss out on alot of fresh water down the road.

For those who want to achieve and build great things, stress is part of the game. It’s what makes us tick. But, be carefull of getting consumed by the stresses of the world around you. Play the game smartly, NOT foolishly!

Hope this helps!

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” ~ Sydney J. Harris

#LifesAbitch#lifelesson #roadofsteel #figuringItoutAsIgoAlong